The Magic of Pausing: Rethinking Your Life and Counting Your Victories

In the busy world of everyday activities, it is very easy to forget about what we have achieved and what we want our lives to be like. We are often on a treadmill that keeps moving us ahead but not necessarily in the direction of our real desires. This is where the magic of pausing comes in. A moment for stopping, reevaluating, and reflecting is quite transformative. It helps us count our wins and re-adjust our ways to ensure that we are making progress towards the life we actually desire.

The Value of Pausing

Pausing does not mean only ceasing activities; it creates room for thinking deeply or doing some self-evaluation. The world today moves at a fast pace; therefore, taking breaks looks as if one is slowing down their progress. However, these are moments where things become clearer and the burden of daily activities fades in the long run. These are reasons why pausing is important:

  1. Mental Clarity: Constant activity can cloud our judgment and decision-making abilities. Pausing helps clear the mental clutter, allowing us to think more clearly.
  2. Stress Reduction: Taking a break reduces stress and prevents burnout. It gives our mind and body time to recover and rejuvenate.
  3. Perspective: Stepping back from our daily routines provides a fresh perspective on our challenges and goals. It helps us see the bigger picture and evaluate our progress objectively.

Reassessing Your Life

Once you’ve taken the time to pause, the next step is to reassess your life. This is a big one and often scary. It involves evaluating where you are currently and where you want to be. Ask yourself:

  • What are my core values and goals?
  • Am I living in alignment with these values and goals?
  • What areas of my life need more attention or change?

Reevaluating helps identify gaps between your current reality and your desired future. It’s a vital step in making decisions about what to prioritize and what changes need to be made.

Counting Your Wins

Amidst the hustle, we often overlook our successes. Counting your wins, no matter how small, is crucial for maintaining motivation and a positive mindset. Here’s how you can do it:

  • Reflect Daily: At the end of each day, take a few minutes to reflect on your achievements. They can be as simple as completing a task, learning something new, or making someone smile.
  • Keep a Gratitude Journal: Write down your wins and things you’re grateful for. This practice helps reinforce a positive outlook and reminds you of your progress.
  • Celebrate Milestones: Acknowledge and celebrate significant milestones. Rewarding yourself reinforces positive behaviour and keeps you motivated.

Getting the Life You Want

By pausing, reassessing, and counting your wins, you are better equipped to design the life you want. Here are some steps to help you get there:

  1. Set Clear Goals: Define what success looks like for you. Set specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART) goals.
  2. Create a Plan: Develop a step-by-step plan to achieve your goals. Break down big goals into smaller, manageable tasks.
  3. Stay Flexible: Life is unpredictable. Be prepared to adjust your plans as needed while keeping your end goals in sight.
  4. Seek Support: Surround yourself with positive influences and seek support from friends, family, or mentors. They can provide guidance and encouragement.
  5. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Understand that setbacks are part of the journey. Learn from them and keep moving forward.

The journey to achieving the life you want starts with a simple pause. By taking the time to reflect, reassess, and count your wins, you empower yourself to make informed decisions and align your actions with your true desires. Remember, life is not just about reaching the destination but also about appreciating the journey. So, take a deep breath, pause, and embrace the power of reflection. Your future self will thank you for it.

The time is now

I had the honour to have Mary Jane Roy in front of my camera. This was her first professional photoshoot, complete with wardrobe, makeup and hairstyling. At the age of 67!

I met Mary Jane through the Professional Women’s Network (PWN) Netherlands years ago and we had an instant connection. (Turns out we were born on the same day :) )

What captivated me about her from the start was her kindness and warmth, and mostly her ability to see the good in others, motivating them to be the strong and resilient people they can be.

Mary Jane Roy is fighting for a “multi-generational future where younger and older employees feel welcomed and valued”. I would add that they are both irreplaceable and imperative in today’s society.

This is what she said about her experience with us:

“Yesterday, I had one of the best experiences of my life! As a result of the combined efforts of Tammy Parrish and Cristina Stoian, I had my first professional photoshoot, at the age of 67! A professional make-up artist Stefan Alina was also available, as well as a videographer @Kristina Nesterova , who recorded much of the session.

A huge thank you, to all of you. It was something I SO didn’t want to do (but it was time), and it turned into a fun few hours. It’s for this reason, I say it was one of the best experiences. It stretched me, which is to grow.
You had me laughing my way through a situation for which I definitely had to muscle up my courage!

I haven’t seen the results yet, but from these professionals, I know the end result will be cherished by me.

#livingfrommyheart 

 

 

I strongly believe 50+ is fabulous! I cannot get enough photographing them, offering a platform to be visible and appreciated in our youth-obsessed world. Me and Tammy Parrish are committed to see that happen! Let’s do this!

Many thanks to all the team that made it all happen:

Tammy Parrish stylist
Stefan Alina Make-up and hair artist
Kristina Nesterova videographer
marleen rameckers Jewelry

#ageism #50plusisfabulous #portraitphotography #makeportraits

 

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Today I met international photographer Lara Jade at Shoot Amsterdam. I was waiting for this event, mainly to see her speak live. She’s a good friend of Sue Bryce, my new role model, so seeing her and talking to her in real life made me feel a bit closer to Sue. :) I told her I am starting Glamour Photography in Amsterdam and she said, “oh yeah, I think it’s a great market here”. She encouraged me to do it.

It was refreshing to see how she was interacting with the model, she is using a familiar special posing language, using her hands and key words, language that I learned as well through doing the CREATIVELIVE courses with Sue.

Her keynote/demo was all about ‘mastering one light’. It was sponsored by  so the stage was decorated with Giant Parabolic reflectors, the one she was using was really huge, a third of the stage. She was controlling the lights via her iPad, with the bronControl app, cool gimmick that raised some eye brows in the audience.

But one thing that stuck to me from everything else that she taught. To her, more important than all the lighting techniques in the world, is the connection with your subject. When you take your time and have have a coffee and a chat with your models before the shoot, connecting on a human level, it makes a huge difference, your portraits will be showing more the emotional side, which is one of Lara’s most compelling quality.

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Photo by Monique Shaw

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Photo by Monique Shaw